Music has a way of reaching places words cannot. When I began thinking about the music for Michael’s celebration of life, I knew it mattered deeply. I didn’t want background noise. I wanted music that carried memory, love, grief, and beauty — music that could hold everything we were feeling in that moment.
From the beginning, one decision felt clear. I wanted a bagpiper to lead us down the aisle as we began the celebration. Michael loved Amazing Grace. It was one of those songs that sent shivers down my spine every time I heard it. It was heartbreaking and perfect all at once. Given that Michael’s family originated from Scotland, it also felt deeply fitting — a quiet way of honouring where he came from and what mattered to him.
During my search, I came across Dan MacDonald, a bagpiper based in the GTA. From our first interaction, I felt confident in the choice. Dan was kind, responsive, and thoughtful, and on the day itself, he played beautifully. As the sound of Amazing Grace filled the space and we walked down the aisle, it felt as though time slowed. That moment is etched into my memory, and I am endlessly grateful to Dan for how he held it with such care.
In addition to the piper, I knew I wanted live music during the reception — something gentle and unobtrusive, yet emotionally rich. A string quartet felt right. I spent time making a list of Michael’s favourite songs, including Into My Arms by Nick Cave, which had been our wedding song. That piece alone carried so much of our story.
While searching for musicians, I came across Wellington Music and was connected with Orsi Lengyel. Orsi was incredibly helpful, warm, and attentive. She listened carefully to what I was hoping for and connected me with exceptionally talented musicians. They took my list of songs seriously and came prepared, honouring each piece with sensitivity and skill.
Throughout the reception, the music floated gently through the room. It didn’t demand attention, but it shaped the atmosphere in a profound way. I will never forget how special they made that day, and how deeply the music supported the experience of remembering Michael.
Music is only one part of creating a meaningful gathering. Choosing the right space for a celebration of life can be just as important in shaping how the day feels and is remembered. For many families, planning these moments happens while still deeply grieving. Additional bereavement support can make these decisions feel less overwhelming.
Let the Music Reflect the Person You’re Honouring
Choosing music for a celebration of life isn’t about what’s expected. It’s about what feels true. Live music can be incredibly powerful, but recorded music can be just as meaningful. What matters most is that the music reflects the person you’re honouring — their tastes, their history, the moments that defined them.
Take your time. Make a list. Trust your instincts. Music has the ability to hold joy and sorrow at the same time, and when chosen with care, it can transform a gathering into something unforgettable. For me, the music was one of the most meaningful parts of Michael’s celebration of life. It carried him into the room, and in many ways, it carried all of us through the day.
